Internet dating

Why does nowadays dating happen more and more frequently through the Internet? The answer is evident – it’s easier to get acquainted on the Net than anywhere else.
To start with, the majority of people looking for a mate either has completely bereaved of all the hope to find anybody in their immediate surrounding or by force of certain circumstances can’t do it where they live. Or they simply want to find an interesting person to talk to.
For example, many women (young as well as women already of ripe years) for a variety of reasons even don’t want to find their partners in life among their friends or even in their own city. Some of them think that there can’t be any presentable candidate around. In this manner somebody tries to change the place of residence, even move to a more prosperous country. For example, in Russia dating with men from America or Europe enjoys wide popularity. Why? Young guys (but more often sound men of forty) have nothing against acquaintance with Russian girls – beautiful and smart.
But one shouldn’t think that only Russian girls are interesting for foreign happiness-seekers. People try to find couples everywhere – in Brazil, Poland, the USA, Canada, Greece, etc. And, to my mind, boarders are of no importance. So demand produces supply. There are too many dating services worldwide. And international dating agencies are an essential part of the Internet. And what is really amazing – many people manage to find their partners in life abroad. And now, let’s talk about more earthly things. For what can one get acquainted through the Internet? For virtual communication – by e-mail, ICQ, through chats, by using Web-cameras, etc.; for exchanging pictures or video materials; for real communication – made friends on the Net, met, fell in love, etc.; for joint activity – somebody is looking for business-partners, others are looking for jobs or employees; and, of course, it isn’t a secret, many people are looking for partners for sexual relations through the Net.
Imagine the situation, you are a steady business man and are high in the social scale; loads of people know you but you’ve got some intimate secrets or latent desires. I’m not talking about sexual perverts or things like that. Where can you find people with same interests at the same time keeping your anonymity? How can one get closer to a person and find out as much info as possible about him or her completely in private? The answer to all these questions is the same – the Internet, to be more exact - all sorts of dating agencies or services on the Net. Here distances are not important. Your friend or partner can live nearby or ten thousand miles away.

Before placing your questionnaire in the dating agency decide for yourself whether you really want to do it!
First think about the following:
1.    You’ll have to move to another country, speak another language, accept foreign traditions and culture, leave your own house, relatives and friends. You’ll have to go to the shops where all products are strange to you. You won’t watch your favourite soap operas on TV. And even more – you won’t be able to call your friends and talk to them for an hour or two.
2.    You’ll have to leave your favourite job. If you’d like to start working again in a foreign country, you’ll have to pass several tests just to prove your diploma and it will be rather problematic to find a well-paid job. Are you ready to become a housewife and spend most of your time at home?
3.    Partner search will take considerable resources – time, money and strength. Replying men’s letters can be a long and difficult process. The search of a desirable partner for marriage can take from several months to several years.
But if you are lucky to find a husband, you’ll get:
A loving husband not annoyed with problems of everyday life, who has a chance to make provisions for your children’s future. At least your partner will have a normal job; you’ll regularly go for picnics and spend holidays somewhere on the beach. You’ll have your own house or, rarely, a flat, your own car or minivan …. but which is more important you’ll have him – a man nearby.
Some people may be skeptic – it’s a real miracle to find your prince on the Internet. There are no miracles in life. But it is not so. Our life is full of impossible things. Believe in luck! May good success attend you!
Of course, one shouldn’t bank only on a stroke of luck, but any life must have a place for romance and miracle!
That’s why, if your answer is positive and no doubts have settled in your soul, go on and refer to numerous dating agencies all over the Internet.

While chatting with the opposite sex on the Internet, it is a good idea to follow these rules:
1.    Beware of the men who are up to the eyes in work (even more than the President). As a rule, they don’t have time for meeting you even during their legal holiday. If a man is bound up in meeting friends, doing sports, washing, cooking, etc., you can easily guess what part in his live is assigned to you.
2.    Beware of the men who can’t be with you even on-line on your own red-letter days or other significant dates: your birthday, St. Valentine’s day, or when you need an ordinary emotional support. If he can’t dial back his plans for a day and place you, at least once in a while, on the first place in his list, you’ll always be the first from the bottom of his most-important-things list.
3.    Be careful what he tells about himself; try not to miss any detail. If stories, information and excuses change every day – it is a warning sign. An ambiguous answer to your clearly stated question is the same warning sign.
4.    Be particularly careful to the stories intended for winning compassion, especially stories about death of one’s relatives or beloved, or terrible and rare diseases. Remember if the story sounds too fantastic to be true, it is not true.
5.    Beware of the men who try to make you feel guilty for those questions that you ask for clarifying the situation. If a man tries to accuse you of aggressive behavior in response to the expressed remarks, it makes sense to remember the saying “Best defence is offence”.
6.    Beware of the men who use their children to justify the impossibility of meeting you on their territory. As a rule they say they wouldn’t like their children to get used to you before he himself makes sure of seriousness and strength of your relations. It can be justified in the first months of dating but if you have already met several times on your territory and he wants to come to your place again and again, it is obvious that the problem is not in his children but in their dad.
7.    Beware of the so-called ‘uncome-at-able’ men whose mobile phones are always ‘unavailable’ and they don’t call you back for many long hours. I recommend you to be skeptical about his remarks that he hasn’t received your call or message and his curses to the mobile operator for awful connection.
8.    If he isn’t on-line or doesn’t reply though he’s promised and, moreover, he doesn’t have any satisfactory excuses, cross his name off your contact list. If you forgive him such an inexcusable attitude towards you just for once, be sure he’ll do it again and again.
9.    Beware of the men whose mood to you is changeable like the wind. First he can’t stop writing to you, he writes several letters a day, and then disappears for a week or two. Such behavior is intended to make you into a slave of his whim and fancy.
Play your own game!
10.    Check the information about your admirers. If you know where he works, find the website of his company and check the information given on the site against with the one given by him.
In fact, try to use the whole potential of the Internet and collect as much information about your admirer as possible before you decide to meet him in real life.

Communication by means of e-mails has its pluses and minuses. On the one hand, communication in writing is much easier. You can conceal your emotions, feelings, embarrassment; you can choose better words… You can introduce yourself as a natural peppy blond with long legs, ideal figure, unmarried and crazy in love… while in real life you are a dyed brunette, with extra kilos on hips and two crying kids (in fact three – a husband, of course) and loads of problems.
On the other hand, it is a blind dating. You can’t see the man’s reaction on your letter or the look on his face…. All you can have – his picture on the site and general data from the questionnaire. Who knows? Maybe he is also not a business man (owns a lorry and delivers pizza); his private house in fact is an old wooden building in the forest. He is single – now- but 6 kids from the previous three marriages. He says that he loves animals (but two dogs and a parrot have died of hunger). I’m joking, of course! But who knows?
E-love…. Can it happen? Does it exist? Or has it been cooked for satisfaction of our airy dreams? Some people are skeptic about it – it isn’t possible to fall in love by letters without feeling natural vibes, smells and touching, without walking together, hand in hand, along dark streets or eating pizza in the bar. You need to spend some time together – face to face. But if you are too busy in real life and don’t have enough time to go out and get acquainted in the cafes, bars, cinemas, etc. Probably, you are very shy or have already been disappointed in love. The only way for you to approach this forbidden but sweet world is through the Internet. Here you can be Alen Delon or Merlin Monro.
Every day coming to work or home the first thing you do is rushing to the computer and soaking yourself in the world where there are only you and he or she. With trembling hands you write about yourself and your secret dreams in wait for kind and romantic answer.
And wow! At last he’s answered! Pleased and happy… It is far from being a virtual sentiment of joy! Perhaps in several months you’ll sit on the sofa, playing handies, and will recall your ‘unreal’ meeting on the Net. E-love can become real.
For the distance and time not to impede your relationship, you can exchange real addresses and send real letters or cards to each other. You can send SMS and talk from time to time by phone realizing that he is your dream-man you have been looking for so long.
E-love can become real in any moment – it all depends only on you! Fall in love and be happy!

Hey, girls! Don’t you like flirting? What about making eyes at men? Haven’t you ever tried to come under man’s notice? Yes, we have. But more often we don’t count upon serious relations; we demand nothing and offer nothing in return but at the same time we aren’t sure of anything. And this very possibility of something to happen adds the flirt peculiar taste and fineness of feelings.      

By nature all women are gifted with this talent – ability to flirt, easily and relaxed, with those men whom it brings joy and pleasure. Dating for flirtation isn’t husband searching or collecting of potential grooms. It’s a game, fancy-free communication for pleasure with interesting people, and new possibilities for meeting new friends. The main aim of this game is to charm, to intrigue somebody, and attract your companion.          

There are several ways of charming your pen-friend of the opposite sex:

• Show the man that you are really interested in him. Ask him about his business, impressions, interests, health, values, etc. The most important here is a sense of proportion: don’t turn friendly chatting into interrogation under torture.
• Display amiability (send ‘smileys’ that produce the same effect as smiles in reality).
• Don’t feel strange about addressing your pen-friend by name. It tells not only about absence of amnesia but means that you single him out from other admirers and have a liking for him.
• Give chances to your partner to ask questions but don’t ignore his attempts to tell about himself.
• Show him that his letters (or e-mails) are necessary for your intellectual development and personal enrichment. Any person will be pleased to feel useful and significant.

Actually, flirtation can have various forms, it depends on a person. Every woman can choose her own style. But you should be positively ‘tuned’ for contact. And everything will be fine! Do it! Be different, be yourself!